ebb and flow
a recurrent or rhythmical pattern of coming and going or decline and regrowth.
I can confidently say this is an accurate description of marriage.
Joy and Pain. Sunshine and Rain.
Some days are easy , some days are less easy, and some days are down-right HARD. It was not much different as a solo mom, honestly. Being married, now, and looking back at when I was not married – I still see ups and downs or a similar ebb and flow.
I love Hebrews 12:15 And I love it (in context) from the Message translation:
12 So don’t sit around on your hands! No more dragging your feet!
13 Clear the path for long-distance runners so no one will trip and fall, so no one will step in a hole and sprain an ankle. Help each other out. And run for it!
14 Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God.
15 Make sure no one gets left out of God’s generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time.
God’s generosity is extended to us, an open hand! This is how we should be with each other. It is my heart filled prayer that I be generous with grace with my husband. I sit in the mercy seat a lot. God loves me extravagantly! And, He withholds no good thing from me. I desire to be that way for my husband. And that he be the same with me.
Jesus transformed my life. And, that is enough to transform my marriage. For me to model what Christ has done for me – sacrifice, forgiveness, reconciliation – is a great way to stop dragging my feet!
I really do desire to extend abundant grace in generous heaping helpings to my husband, as though the supply were endless. I just don’t DO it all the time.
I don’t know about you but, I am weak when I feel worn down by his absence or feeling set aside by his commitments in other areas and relationships. Think about how God must feel when we give Him 15 entire minutes of quiet time to read that verse of the day before we hit the ground running. Ouch. (Seeds of Bitter Discontent!)
I just stomped the daylights out of my own toe.
Our marriages require time together – just like growing closer to God requires our time together with Him! I want to be strong and loving and transparent.
I am thankful for the Grace my husband shows me in our marriage. And thankful for the perfect model of GRACE to follow and the Amazing Grace in Jesus’ name!